I know where you are coming from.
Unfortunately, the police don’t know who they are dealing with in most cases. It could be druggies, dui, rapists, etc. If it were my wife being held hostaged and about to be raped by some of the thugs in Anniston, then I would want the police to do whatever is necessary to protect her.
I hope you thought of that. Often we don’t know until after the fact that it was just a dui, but it could be a rapist or kidnapper, like the guy at Lenlock who robbed the bank and abducted the two elderly ladies and took them to Gadsden.
I too, often second guess the police, but if I were they, I would probably do the same thing.
I don’t mean to criticize you, I am just offering a different perspective.